According to statistics, new relationships most often appear in the summer, and often this is just a holiday romance. Alas, on vacation, people most easily decide on treason, even if they understand that the affair will not turn into anything serious.
Reason 1: Feeling of permissiveness
The psychologist explains that we always associate holidays with delicious food, alcohol, the sea coast, the sun, and … absolute anonymity. If you don’t post on social media every second you’re away from work, you can be sure no one will know what you’re up to.
It is also obvious that in an unfamiliar southern town, there are hardly any of your acquaintances who will tell someone about your vacation. Therefore, there is a feeling of relaxation and permissiveness, as if you can allow yourself to do what you could not do in your ordinary life.
Reason 2: Novelty and escapism
Breaking out of the gray everyday life, people feel open to new experiences and emotions. There is a temptation to try everything for which there is not enough time and money in ordinary life. After all, if not now, then when? The picture before our eyes is changing, the perception of the world becomes romanticized, and people are ready for new acquaintances and meetings.
It happens that at home people suffer from hypercontrol: they plan their lives up to a minute and feel constant pressure from society, the expectations and norms of which must be met. On vacation, the internal framework moves apart: the usual social circle is far away, which means that there will be no one to condemn.
As a result, a person begins to behave more impulsively and spontaneously, and this is fertile ground for a holiday romance.
Reason 3: fast endorphins
Vacation usually lasts 7-10 days. This only helps to ensure that a person lives in the moment and does not miss a second that can bring him joy. It is also important that at the beginning of our acquaintance, we idealize partners, in a week we do not have time to see all the shortcomings of our new acquaintance, get used to it, get used to it, and therefore the charm does not disappear.
Psychologists call this a short and distorted “phase of orientation”: a person sees his fantasy in the other. And she does not have time to collapse, because soon people will part.