The honeymoon phase is typical for the beginning of almost any relationship. This can last anywhere from a few months to about the first three years of the relationship. During this period, love is strong and intense. The lovers can’t take their eyes off each other. They spend almost all the time together. They have sex every day.
All of this is beautiful and deepens the sense of commitment. But when you realize that this phase has passed and you cannot bring it back, you may experience a storm of negative feelings, fear of separation, insecurity. It’s okay to want that spark back that you had and miss.
You can’t go back to the honeymoon phase, but you can adjust your relationship expectations.
One of the most important things is to try to have a more realistic view of your relationships and relationships. One of the biggest obstacles to happiness is having unrealistic expectations about relationships and partners. If you expect to live in a fairy tale, as you thought at first, you are likely to be disappointed. This can cause a serious crisis in the relationship.
Build realistic and sustainable expectations for your relationship. Do not think that butterflies in the stomach are something that will always be. Every relationship goes through different stages and transforms. Stormy feelings, passion and attraction initially turn into deeper forms of love, affection, devotion, partnership over time.
What to do when you realize that the honeymoon stage is over and it can’t be returned?
1. Assess how well you can resolve conflicts and communicate.
Healthy communication is essential for a relationship. This determines whether you are good at handling conflicts or if there are unspoken things and tensions between you. Unresolved issues and unexpressed feelings are one of the main reasons couples break up after a honeymoon.
2. How committed are you to your relationship.
After the honeymoon phase, it’s important to consider how much effort you’ve put into your relationship. Then there comes a moment when it becomes clear whether you and your partner want your relationship to develop or whether you don’t care what happens to her after the initial phase of falling in love has disappeared.
3. How do you manage to improve your personality, even if you are one with your partner in a relationship.
After passing through the phase of falling in love, a clash of personalities occurs. Very often this is the moment when there is a break in the relationship. There can be many reasons. Stickiness and dependence on the part of one partner, excessive ambition on the part of the other, the desire for one’s own development at the expense of the common in relations, not finding prospects for the independent development of one partner without the support of the other. These are all psychological mechanisms that show how resilient you are as both independent individuals and relationships.
4. You idealize your partner and his behavior.
Going through the falling in love phase is a good time to take stock of why you are actually in love with your partner and whether you are really in love with him or your idea of him. Once the butterflies in your stomach have subsided, it’s time to appreciate your true feelings for each other. This will help you realize in a healthy and promising relationship whether you are one or not.